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PostHeaderIcon Seed of thought

Usually I do not plan such things, it comes instantly.
Needless to say I was not very pleased with T’s taking me for granted all the time. I was in the kitchen when T passed by. I was holding R’s hands, helping him take his small steps.

Mama: “Ta, what I say I love Raed more?”

T: “I will never talk to you”

Mama: “But you keep saying I love baba more and I still talk to you!”

T:”hmmmm…”

I hope I have planted the seed of thought that has some positive outcome:-)

PostHeaderIcon Mommy stands no where

T had her weekly  ”show and tell”  with “Someone you love” theme. I asked her who/what she loves and she replied “ba.. (A picture of everyone in my family”. I knew that by “ba” she wanted to say baba but did not argue at that time.

Before she was going to bed, I asked her again and this time it was a blunt “baba’s picture”. We found her a nice picture with baba, took a print out and kept in her school passport.

In the morning she saw R and she fell in love with him. She wnated to take a picture of R because “Oh he is so cute, I love him”! Mommy at last minute managed to find and place a picture of R. Did not want to disappoint her.

Mommy- her whole day went by thinking how important I was in my kids life!

I think I am taken for granted and there is nothing I am doing about it.

PostHeaderIcon Love is in the air!

People think I show more love than I should towards my kids. I say why not? They deserve it.

All kids (even we) need is love. I hug my kids a lot. I tell them a thousand times “You know what, I love you”. I say it so many times that whenever I start “You know what…” T says : “Yes, you love me”

It’s not that I don’t yell at them. I get easily stressed up and I have kids, not angels. If you are reading this, I am sure you know what I mean.

All mommy (implies to all mommies out there) want is the best for their kids.More than anything else I want them to be happy (and satisfied) in their lives. I don’t want them to grow up looking back and think they were not loved. And no matter how much I wish them to be loved and care for, I cannot guarantee them that. All I can do is love them and off course express it to them.

Valentines day is coming soon. Avail the opportunity to express your love for them (if you haven’t already) Show your kids how much you love them by not buying them stuff, or letting them go wild. Just express it with lots of hugs, kisses and off course words. Make them a card and place it in the lunch box.

Worth a try! We will be contributing in making this world a better place to live in.

PostHeaderIcon If you scold them appologize to them!

I know we all have shouted at the top of our voices at some point (many points) in our life. They annoy us, the make us mad, we feel like hitting our head but then we love them so much – don’t we?

I was really mad at my kids today. Went downstairs to get T’s uniform washed & R’s spoons sterilized and within 3 minutes I could hear R crying and hitting his head on the safety gate upstairs.

I ran back upstairs and was really annoyed. T listened to me patiently (with hands covering  her ears)  When I gave her a look, she said : “I know an apology with a hug is about to come”

She was so true. I hugged her! Is not this what we expect from them? when they are bad we want them to say sorry. Why not set an example.

 

PostHeaderIcon mommy advises

There are times in life when you feel your friend is going in the wrong direction and you might have a feel to let them go, it is their life after all.

I have always let my friends do what they want and me, myself have done what I felt like doing.

However there are times when you have to stand up and say “Dude, you are wrong!” This is the test of friendship. Don’t impose your opinion on them. They might have a different perception about what they are up to. But don’t hold your feelings too. Share your thoughts.

Do not leave them because you think they are wrong and because you have different opinions. Friends are there to let you know when you are walking in wrong direction

and to hold your hand and tell you that you are doing it wrong, but we still stand beside you.
It might sound a bit complicated but I’m sure when time comes, it will make sense.
People will use you, they are not friends. Let them use you to an extent but do not let yourself get hurt. I have known people who would come to you in time of need but will never be there to ask if you are doing great. They are fake. Help them. Expect the return from God. He is too kind.
Life is all about priorities and we all are too busy in our lives. A person who holds  on to you, is a friend. A person who claims to be your friend and is not even aware of what you have been through is just some one.  Still, never misguide a person – friend or not. You will be blessed.
Based on mommy’s experience in life.

 

 

 

PostHeaderIcon Indeed, I am the mommy

I am the bad mama, thinks T. I never let her do what she wants. (Off course when I do good, I hear it never, applies to mommies)
I’m very rude. (Yes I’m rude I’m her mommy!)

I keep hearing “mommy you are so rude”
I keep hearing: “you are not my friend!”
And I keep replying:” Yes I’m not your friend I’m your mommy” :-)
(As a result she’s stopped saying the friend line)

I have rules for my kids that are non negotiable. As a result my daughters first terms score card at school says “above satisfactory in etiquette and manners:-)
The remarks were: Tabeer was impressive when she explained the difference between good and bad habits.” Mommy’s on cloud nine!

And my daughter gets a shoulder buddy for being good in the class! And this truly made my day.

I want to see my kids as well mannered, loving and helpful people.

“Amen” to the wish.

PostHeaderIcon The diplomat we have in our family.

With all the sales going around mama’s on a shopping spree. I pick up T from her school and pushing R in his stroller enter the mall.
T wants ice cream and I want her to eat something before having ice cream.

T: Mama can I have ice cream?
Mama: No.
T: Please can I have ice cream?
Mama: No.
T: pleaaaaaaaaaseee?
(Mama gives her that warning look..)
T: You know what I love…
(Mama stares her again knowing “baba” is what’s about to come)
T: ….I love you mama. You are so good.

Times when you think your daughter has a future in politics.

PostHeaderIcon Mommy celebrates 6 years with baba

We celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary today. Hard to believe how time flew.
Totally loving my life, Alhamdulilah (Praise to my lord) who has blessed us so much.
I would say a successful marriage is one that is based on trust, respect and love. You miss one ingredient and it is gone.
Spice it up with contentment and life itself will envy you.

It is time of the year I recall all good things hubby darling did for me. Time of the year when I thank you for making my life so beautiful. For respecting me & my wishes, for all your support (without which my life would have gone astray). Thanks for the limitless fun times & the crazy laughter.

I love you, though it’s not same like before. It intensifies more every time I think of you.

Lets keep rocking!

Here is to a lifetime with you Umar Siddiqi. A lifetime of togetherness.

PostHeaderIcon Coming from an over tired mom!

 

 This is not the story of me alone. I’m sure there are many moms like me who really want to go ahead in their lives but the constant needs of an infant and the pretended needs of a toddler stop them from doing so.

Saw this cartoon at one of the websites and could not help sharing it.

I often wonder (and it is not because I expect them to pay for it) if they will ever realise that I did not continue my education so that I could fit into budget the best for them? That I really tried my best so that they never have to walk alone…

 

 

PostHeaderIcon Raeds first blog appearance

 

This post was long due, 9 months and few days to be precise. He was born on March 8th. Need less to say she was very excited and had really counted days to see her baby brother.

9 months raed

Two canines and two lower incisors on a round face with chubby cheeks and big shinny eyes melting your heart and making you aww at every single move is how I can describe him. Even when there was no tooth, he had the cutest toothless smile and the ability to make anyone fall in love with him.

Raed is the 9 month old brother of tabeer and they are totally in love with eachother